Setting up local texmf tree

1. Use the command
sudo tlmgr conf texmf TEXMFHOME "~/Library/texmf:~/remote/shared/texmf"

The default place for this file is
/usr/local/texlive/<year>/texmf.cnf

2. Try running kpsewhich -var-value TEXMFHOME to see where
TeX thinks your local texmf tree should be.